Comments on: On why I don’t attend bridal showers and wedding receptions

By: Katrina

Katrina — Tue, 29 Jun 2010 02:01:22 +0000

I will take blame for being one of the crappy friends who droppped off the radar after getting married, but I will say, I still remember you being at my actual wedding ceremony and am SO happy you were there! That’s really the only part that mattered to me that day. I agree with the reception part…I really didn’t pay attention to who was there or not!

By: Heather

Heather — Wed, 23 Jun 2010 14:21:03 +0000

I’m glad to feel counted as one of your married friends. And I totally understand about the whole talking on the phone thing – happens all the time either to me or the person I’m talking to!

By: leslijoe

leslijoe — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 19:32:02 +0000

Holls –

1. It is kinda like in college when we just did stuff with our roommates (or just you and I) instead of getting out there and meeting new people. It is so much easier to do stuff with the person you live with. For me, it is a roommate. For you, a husband. And if I was married, I would much rather hang out with my husband.

2. We do need to get together and do some photography stuff. I can’t wait to talk to someone about aperture and shutter speed and depth-of-field who actually knows what I’m talking about and who can teach me even more.

By: Kristina

Kristina — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 16:14:55 +0000

You nailed it! Those are some of the exact reasons why I don’t attend receptions and showers. Thanks for explaining it so clearly.

By: Holly

Holly — Mon, 21 Jun 2010 02:33:56 +0000

No reception? Will your dad still give you money for a down payment on a house? That used to be the deal, from what I can remember. Going to these things when you don’t really want to is no fun. I hate feeling that obligation. We should go because we truly want to go!

I miss my single friends! I see some sometimes, not often enough. In my opinion, 2 reasons:

1. I already have someone to go with wherever I’m going. That means I don’t have to plan in advance and arrange it with someone else’s schedule. It doesn’t mean that I don’t want to, it means that I have decided on something last minute and doubt others are available now or want to do the things I want to do. Probably the wrong assumption.

2. My single friends forget their married friends and don’t invite me to their activities. I don’t feel awkward around them. I don’t think they feel awkward around me. Just a case of forgetfulness maybe.

Now then, let’s schedule our outing!

By: Laci Thomas

Laci Thomas — Sat, 19 Jun 2010 15:01:45 +0000

Lesli, you are sooo right. Once a friend is married, being friends with the “single gal” just is not that important. Thank you for putting your opinion in just amazing words. I totally agree with you!!